OK, so we finally have tires that are all the same size and all holding air, we have a name, what's next? A lift, of course! (no you didn't miss it, to this point, fluids/filters hadn't been done)
(I don't want to hear opinions on the lift I chose. It was an informed decision, and that's all there is)
Once again determined for the work on this to be mine as much as humanly possible, I made a plan. I started reading and watching everything I could on doing a 2.5" suspension lift with shocks, and felt pretty confident. I got the call that the parts were (mostly) in, clocked out of work early, and excitedly went to pick them up. The only thing missing was the front adjustable trackbar which was backordered, but, in theory, shouldn't be a big deal, at least in the short-term. On Friday, 7/15, I bit into the very first suspension thing I had ever done, and it bit back. HARD.
After spending, literally, 6 hours trying to get the lower shock bolt to break loose on the left rear, the first spot I tried, I was beyond frustrated and beginning to feel like I had made a major mistake. I had a moment of cussing and crying then pulled my brain back together and considered everything I knew and the resources that I had. I had tried copious amounts of PB Blast, LOTS of passes with the torch, I even went and bought a cordless impact (no compressor), and still hadn't even gotten a hint of movement. So, I made the phonecall that I didn't want to make: I called my dad. Dad is a retired body repairman, he has the fancy tools and the big compressor. He also has a garage that I can work in, which means the bugs won't chew on me all night long.
I put the tires back on, got it off the jackstands, packed up the parts and my tools and went to my parents' house. What everyone had said would be 1-2 hours on the rear and 2-3 on the front had now been an entire day of stress. I got to my parents' house, got unloaded, rear off the ground, tires off and called it a day.
The next day was far less frustrating, other than having to hunt for metric tools when my dad retired from Ford and has almost exclusively SAE, but that just made things a bit more entertaining...or something. The best moment of the day was when the 3/4" drive impact broke that stupid shock bolt loose in seconds. The second best was when my cousin (he was helping my dad with something else, meaning I was mostly on my own for this) walked over, put his foot on the axle, and the spring popped into place. Then a few seconds later, the same on the other side. I got the wheels back on and started taking the front apart.
(I'm fairly certain that those are the original rear shocks. They were ROUGH)
I had been warned that the top shock nut on the front was going to be a nightmare, and it definitely was, and was one of the moments where I was glad to have my dad's experience right there. He came out, looked at the fender well, cut out a piece, handed me a wrench, and, while it was slow going, I got it free. The other fender well was shaped a bit differently, and the nut was more stubborn, so I needed help again. Not so much guiding help this time, but actual help, because I didn't have any strength left in my hands. My dad cut out the same spot on the fender well, and got the spring out before handing me the keys to his Flex for the second night in a row.
The last morning I got there so amped, expecting that the hard part was over and everything was going to go back together like the rear did...HA! The passenger side went right into place, but the driver side? There just wasn't room for the spring to pop in. I went to O'Reilley's for a spring compressor, but had never used one before, so I didn't know that I actually needed a strut-spring compressor, so that was no help. I had my entire self (and I'm not a waif) on the axle and it wasn't moving AT.ALL. I kept saying 'how about this,' 'how about that,' and all the while my dad was saying 'just disconnect the driveshaft.' ALWAYS listen to Dad. You would think I would have learned this by now, but no, I fought it pretty intently. Disconnected the driveshaft, the spring slipped right in with plenty of room to comfortably line it up in the channel.
Again, we started putting it back together, which went great until I grabbed the Teraflex flexible brakeline 'brackets' and looked at the bracket my brakeline HAD been connected to under the springmount. That was a thick piece of aluminum that had obviously been clamped around the brakeline without any intention on it ever coming out, but it had to. OK, 2 pairs of vice grips, and brute strength it was going to be. It took time, and my wrist is still a bit (a lot) messed up from it, but it got done. Once that was done, I once again thought this was it, this was the moment, when my dad went "OH E36 M3" and my heart sank. We were each working on a side, and he was getting the top shock nut started when he dropped it. He dropped it, but it was nowhere; we didn't hear it hit the ground, couldn't find it with a magnet, it was just gone, and while my dad has an EXTENSIVE spare fastener collection, it's all course thread and SAE. His neighbor, though, is a retired machinist, so he made a phonecall, grabbed the shock and went down the road where the neighbor had just what was needed.
I got started again on the shock, got it done, and finished putting everything back together. The wheels went on, headlight angle was checked, and out of the garage it went! I haven't felt that accomplished about a car-related project since I pulled my car out of the paintbooth in high school. I also have never worked that hard in that short of a time, in my life. I'm bruised, quite literally, from head to toe, still, but it's done. And while I had help, my dad was VERY quick to tell me that he didn't help, he advised, loaned tools and was an extra hand once I had it going, so I still did it myself. I not only did suspension things, I did hard suspension things that required problem-solving for things that I didn't plan for, and this was the outcome:
I'm 5'3" on a tall day, there are no rock sliders/running boards on my Jeep and the bottom of the door now sits about 30" off the ground. I'm told watching my little "grab the rollbar and swing in" move is entertaining.