Lost the support of my wife :(

I won't let the door hit me in the ass on the way out

(hangs head in shame)

Obviously, something is bothering her. It may in fact be the car or the time you have spent with it and the hobby. Even though she has shared that hobby with you to some extent, she may enjoy it less than you know. She may have some resentment based on her sacrifices to show support for your interests but doesn't feel you have reciprocated to the same degree or have adequately acknowledged her efforts. All of this is just a guess though.

The only way you will ever know for sure is to communicate, talk to her about her concerns and needs, and listen to how she feels. Have an honest and specific conversation(s) about both her needs and yours. Marriage is never perfect, requires effort, and compromise from both. Good communication has always diffused any issues in my marriage. Hope it all works out for you.

loosecannon wrote:

BBsGarage wrote:

spitfirebill wrote: Silly Boy. There is no "own money". There is "her money" and there is "our money".

and "our money" is really "her money" that she lets you think is "our money"

This is definitely not true, we each pay towards our mutual expenses a percentage proportional to our individual incomes. Whatever she has left over is hers to burn (the casino, shoes, purses, clothes) and mine to burn (race car). I have no idea how much money she has socked away and she has no idea what I have in my account or on my credit card. It's a system that really works.

Hmmmm!? I needs ta find me one a those wimminz that werks a job for a livin.

dlmater wrote: Obviously, something is bothering her. It may in fact be the car or the time you have spent with it and the hobby. Even though she has shared that hobby with you to some extent, she may enjoy it less than you know. She may have some resentment based on her sacrifices to show support for your interests but doesn't feel you have reciprocated to the same degree or have adequately acknowledged her efforts. All of this is just a guess though. The only way you will ever know for sure is to communicate, talk to her about her concerns and needs, and listen to how she feels. Have an honest and specific conversation(s) about both her needs and yours. Marriage is never perfect, requires effort, and compromise from both. Good communication has always diffused any issues in my marriage. Hope it all works out for you.

She may forget how much she loves going to Nationals because nobody is more excited than her when we are there. As a matter of fact, it was her idea to go to Springnationals this year, of course this was just after she opened a can of woop-ass in BM-L. She may think I am carrying more debt than I really am from building this car. She forgets that I sold my quad and a bunch of car parts to help finance it.