On a c900, in my experience, there is no real reason to install poly control arm bushings on a street car. Also, if the control arm bushings aren't cracked and obviously failing, you might not even notice the difference between old and new rubber bushings (I didn't when I replaced a set on a c900 w/150k on the clock). (Exception: inspect the RH upper a-arm bushings, which get exposed to exhaust heat and degrade.) I would bet you a nickel that if you replaced the lower spring seat bushing you won't be able to tell the difference: they almost never go bad.
When installing new bushings, see the Bentley manual to set the attachment brackets up at the right angle.
Regarding compliance on these cars: the upper bushings are fairly thin: there's not a whole lot of rubber to deflect to begin with. Not sure about the lowers, but they don't seem too terribly large, either.
For a street-driven car, again, in my experience, poly outer AND INNER swaybar bushings make a big difference and are worth installing. The outers come in black and red poly -- the red type aren't durable and crack. Inners are available from www.sasab.com, and outers from just about anywhere. Lubricate them all with anti-seize goop, or just let your PS system leak on the inners.
I would inspect the rear upper links for degraded bushings, and replace, if necessary; they commonly rot. I'd also consider replacing the panhard bushings. The rear lower control arm bushings seem to last a good long time.
I've read that rear poly swaybar bushings are nice to have but they're $$$.
If you are in this for the long haul, avoid Scantech rubber bushings and look for Boge-branded stuff (Boge was OE supplier). That said, Boge doesn't make all of the bushings anymore and you may have to settle for Scantech.
The only performance non-Bilstein shocks I'm aware of are Konis and KYBs. The KYBs are not my cup of tea: too stiff in compression. Cheap, though.
Regarding poly bushings on c900 shocks: I've tried 'em and found that the constant pounding ovalizes the lowers; I just stick to the rubber stuff as a result.
And while I'm vomiting out all of this E36 M3, the front lower shock mounts are pretty easily stripped, so be gentle down there: strip one and you're likely going to be looking for another a-arm.
You may have to grind down an open-end wrench to get the dual-nut uppers off, if the original, somewhat thin nuts are used.
Don't forget to add some camber while you're at it.