Since I respect GRM'ers more than just about anyone else, I'd like to get your opinion about a little situation that I became entangled in on another forum. Here's the story:
I was trolling the For Sale section and stumbled upon an ad for something that I had been looking for for several months. It was an old ad that had been recently bumped with a post reading, "Is this still available?". It was already on page 5 when I found it.
It was kind of expensive, but it was exactly what I was looking for and represented a fair deal. I PM'd the seller and told him that I would take it at his asking price. He responded immediately, told me that it was an old ad and he had given away some of the hardware mentioned listed, but the big parts were still available, at the original price. I was a little disappointed, but it was still a good deal so I told him that I'd still take it.
Then, nothing for a few hours. I actually had to go to the bank and move a little money around and I also dropped the prices on some items that I had for sale in order to offset the cost and make some room.
When I got home, I had a private message. The guy who had revived the thread with "Is this still available?" was upset and felt that he should have had first crack at it, stating that I wouldn't have known about it if he hadn't bumped it, which was probably true. Even though he hadn't made an offer to buy it, he asked if I would do the ethical thing and step aside. He had also expressed his feelings to the seller.
After a bit of debate, I decided to contact the seller and reluctantly asked him to move me to second in line. I'll admit that part of my reasoning for doing so was to protect my own For Sale threads.
I didn't really feel bad about what I had done originally. As far as I knew, an item was available and I made an offer to buy it at full price. I may not have even read anything more than the seller's original post before I PM'd him.
So I ask, "What would GRM have done?"
...on an interesting side note, the seller just contacted me and mentioned that the other guy followed up with questions indicating that the parts may not fit his car, even though the details of the ad clearly stated what it would fit.