MadScientistMatt said:
My wife and I got married on New Year's Eve so (1) we could start the next year married, and (2) it would be an easy anniversary for me to remember. In retrospect, that also wasn't the best day for making dinner reservations later.
SVReX: Was it a costume party wedding by any chance?
The rehearsal dinner was Halloween night. It was a costume party at the swankiest place in town.
It was the kind of place where everyone wears tuxedos and evening gown. My Dad rented a private room in the back, but there was no way to get there without going through the entire restaurant. Our entire wedding party was dressed up. My best man was dressed as "The Groom Reaper". My Dad was a Rabbi. I was dressed as a clown and was walking on stilts- I had to duck to avoid hitting my head on the ceiling.
We were the talk of the town. Well, at least the town was talking about us!
My son was born a couple days before our anniversary. He had PPHN and was medavacked to another hospital 20 miles from the one my wife was in recovering from a c section. Needless to say I was splitting my time between my wife who wanted me with her but we also did not want Stephen to be alone. This was the longest I have ever gone with out sleep and we canceled our anniversary recognizing that it was just not important. We have never celebrated it ever again. Stephen ended up surviving and ultimately is fine but it was 2 weeks of touch and go that probably aged me by 10 years. It was a life changing time that made us realize that an anniversary was just not that important in the grand scheme of life.
I forgot our 1st anniversary but haven't forgot one since. Now her on the other hand. No longer important for her and she's forgotten a few, especially the past few years. I thought I had a pretty good excuse for our 1st. Our oldest daughter was less than 2 weeks old and I was doing most of the taking care of the baby. Her first child, my second so I knew what to do and she didn't plus she was scared she'd do something wrong. She asked me what day was yesterday, I told her Saturday since today is Sunday. Then she asked the date, after I told her she asked what did we do a year ago yesterday. That's when I said oops. Haven't forgot any since and the next one on 2 Oct will be the 40th.
Now it took a little longer for me to get her birthday straight. I've celebrated it on the wrong day a few times. Once while I was attending an Army school out of town I called her to wish her a happy birthday, she replied thanks but it's in 2 days. Whoops again. Nowadays she doesn't like celebrating birthdays or anniversaries. Wonder if that means something? She's Korean and has different priorities anyway.
I technically have three anniversaries. First is our wedding day. Second is the day in our pastors office when we actually got married before wedding day (to get on wife's health insurance). Only told both sets of parents before actual wedding. Third is wrong date that pastor put on our marriage certificate.
Set a permanent alarm on your phone to remind you a week ahead of time. We tend to get our son's birthday and our anniversary mixed up. Our anniversary is April 25th, 1986. He arrived four weeks early on April 23rd, 1987. I came home from having him on ny first anniversary . Hubby spent the night putting the crib together and then had blue streamers and a welcome home/happy anniversary poster up for us. He also geta the win for bringing me roses every year. At 35 years, its getting expensive.
dxman92 said:
I technically have three anniversaries. First is our wedding day. Second is the day in our pastors office when we actually got married before wedding day (to get on wife's health insurance). Only told both sets of parents before actual wedding. Third is wrong date that pastor put on our marriage certificate.
We also ended up with a flood-the-zone strategy to give each other plausible deniability for forgetting a date. Once (the legal one) with Elvis in Vegas to get her on my insurance, then again in NJ with family, and once in Reno on the way out of CA. Different years, too, so if we miss a big one we can just roll it over to the next available date.
She's either my first wife by my third marriage or my third by my first, it's never clear.
