2 daughters, 18 and 22. If the 12 year old is a dick, as in he's shooting my kid in the face with a nerf dart, he gets the boot until he learns how to behave around little kids.
If he's kicking the kids ass at some video game, tell 7 yo that hes will learn a lot more about a game a lot quicker when he plays up a division, and its a tough life, suck it up.
1988RedT2 wrote: I don't want to mollycoddle the little guy, but neither do I want him getting whipped up on by a much older kid. Short of an all-out ban on visits (which would greatly upset my older son), how can I make this situation better?
Krav Maga.
Woody wrote:1988RedT2 wrote: I don't want to mollycoddle the little guy, but neither do I want him getting whipped up on by a much older kid. Short of an all-out ban on visits (which would greatly upset my older son), how can I make this situation better?Krav Maga.
I had to google that!
Both boys have had a couple years of Aikido, and I'd like to get them back into it.
So the 12 year old hangs with a 7 and 9 year old because he can't keep up with 12 year olds?
914Driver wrote: So the 12 year old hangs with a 7 and 9 year old because he can't keep up with 12 year olds?
It's a small neighborhood. The 12-yo is our next-door neighbor. And my kids have all the cool toys.
1988RedT2 wrote:914Driver wrote: So the 12 year old hangs with a 7 and 9 year old because he can't keep up with 12 year olds?It's a small neighborhood. The 12-yo is our next-door neighbor. And my kids have all the cool toys.
There was a pretty wide age range in my neighborhood growing up and we all played together. No kids of my own, but I've been on both sides of that equation. Some kids were shiny happy people and some were whiners. Most of the time they weren't aware of it because they're just kids. In a large group of neighborhood kids, the shiny happy people and whiners were not tolerated for very long. We just didn't play with them - that usually brought them around.
So this kid has enrolled in bully school at your house? Nice. I think the lessons of picking on younger, weaker kids will serve him well on his way to becoming a Penn State Football Coach.
(13 year old and a 1 year old)
I'm not a parent, but I remember how things were growing up.
I'm the youngest of 3. Middle sibling is 6 years older and the oldest is 13 years older. I had some trouble with the middle sibling's friends when they were over(General bullying, nothing that bad). And there were occasional situations (and similar age gaps) like OP's with some of the neighborhood kids I would play with. When playing video games with the older kids I would usually get my ass handed to me. It wasn't until I got a little older that things evened out or I ended up being better than them.
In terms of Nerf gun fights and rough housing I got shot in the face a whole bunch of times. It's not like you can be all that accurate with Nerf. Now being a jerk and shooting someone in the face close range on purpose is a dick move.
Growing up I had a group of friends that were all 2-3 years older than me. I was seen as an equal. It probably helped that we were all big nerds.
TL;DR It's not about the age, it's the personality and maturity level of the kids interacting with each other.
Streetwiseguy wrote: 2 daughters, 18 and 22. If the 12 year old is a dick, as in he's shooting my kid in the face with a nerf dart, he gets the boot until he learns how to behave around little kids. If he's kicking the kids ass at some video game, tell 7 yo that hes will learn a lot more about a game a lot quicker when he plays up a division, and its a tough life, suck it up.
Am a parent, but haven't gotten there yet.
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