I use an Excel tool that I built. It looks at this week plus 5 weeks worth of income and outlay. I provide my bi weekly income (take home), and then insert my bills that each paycheck will pay, plus additional known costs like gas and groceries. I include some incidentals like dinners out or movie tix. Its not so much a planner, as it is a digital balance sheet. I know how much I can put into savings each week, and how much I can spend on fun stuff. Occasionally, the fun stuff balance is zero. If its zero, its zero, and I have to suck it up and watch re-runs on the weekend. But it works, and it keeps me in the black. I live on cash. This tool was born out of necessity.
I used to bounce my account constantly. US Bank and others had their schemes: They would reorganize charges to pay out the larger ones first, thereby optimizing the likelihood that each transaction had the potential for bouncing your account. Then, they would hit you with $35 fees for every charge after the balance hit 0. So, a $6 Big Mac meal that hit after your electric payment bounced your account, had the same affect as dinner for 2 at Outback. When you confront the bank, and I was told this on more than one occasion, they would say the reordering of charges was to avoid the embarrassment of a declination if those bigger charges were being made to utilities or some other larger institution. When I would argue that if the charges were not reordered, then the declination would have nothing to do with the order in which I charged them, I was given very thinly veiled insults that I needed to be better with my money...which, indeed was the case in the end. But, the banks tactics were definitely directly intended to get at my money in the form of overdraft fees. Crooked is as crooked does
It wasnt until years and year later that congress got involved, after the bailout. They made things like the reordering of charges illegal, and also instituted tiered charges. If an overdrafted charge was less than (Im making this up) say $20, you could only be charged $6, between $20 and 35, $20, and $35 and above was $35. They also had to make the enrollment in overdraft availability voluntary. A class action lawsuit got me compensation - I received a check for $64
All that said, and knowing that on many many (Im somewhat embarrassed by how many "manys" are appropriate here) occasions, I had entire paychecks swallowed up by overdraft fees from the past week, I still feel that people, in the end, are on the hook for the decisions they make. I learned at the school for hard knocks. I wouldnt be at all surprised if the total for the overdraft fees, late fees, additional interest etc that I have paid (and am still paying) make up nearly a years salary. I needed to lose a lot, and really, REALLY feel the sting of living on nothing, with poor credit, and a car that barely ran, dealing with the disappointment of, and the burden on my family, and many other problems that come from the fallout of financial illiteracy, in order for me to finally, FINALLY do something about it.
Between the missus teaching me some skills, and just knuckling down and deciding that I wasnt going to be a victim anymore, I sat down and learned how to live within my means. Ive been lucky to have a safety net in the past: a family that was willing and able to help me in the short term (I never lived in my car or ate out of a dumpster, but I often wasnt far from it). But, it boiled down to me helping me learn to break the cycle.
What Tuna is doing is helping this girl do the same. She needs a helping hand. With his assistance, she could make some headway, provided she is sincere in her wish to change her situation. It wont be easy, and it will be uncomfortable, but it can be done. But its her decisions, and her responsibility (or lack thereof) which will get her out, or keep her in the poverty cycle.
In the end, its up to her, and she is who the one to blame, or to be applauded. You either choose to stay a uneducated, stay a victim... or you choose to be something else.