I did it!

Jav,

Sometimes everybody does their absolute best with what they have, and things still don't work. I admire the maturity you displayed through this whole process. 

F.W.I.W. What you shared about your situation and the discussion that followed, got me thinking differently about some problems in my marriage. I am starting to make changes and It seems to be moving the relationship in a much happier direction.     

I wish you and your children the very best.

Congrats and good luck !

Very happy for you Jav.  Good luck with your next chapter, man.

My parents divorced when I was 5.  Both could be present for my first day of school, enlistment, homecomings, and wedding (AND sit at the same table).  Here's wishing the same for you two.  If you need an ear or anything along the way, don't hesitate

...aaaand it started to get ugly this morning. I ust let it all roll off of me like water off of a duck, but it was still hard to hear. I hope it was just her getting through the anger part of the grieving process. We haven't done anything besides talk yet, though I did move some money from the joint account to a personal one and raised a little cash.

Continue to be the bigger person.  It will be hard to hear and she will try to get under your skin but you engaging her anger will only start a downward spiral that will be very difficult to stop.  Don't let her know it gets to you.  She needs to get some stuff off her chest the same as you, she just may not have as good of an outlet. 

Keep your head up and continue to vent here as needed.  It's going to be a long hard road, but better times for both of you are on the horizon.

Here comes the emotional part of it.  I'd still have my own attorney at the mediation sessions.  My friend didn't and got taken to the cleaners.

Little late to the party but I am happy for you!!