I too struggle sometimes with family dynamics. I tend to get jealous of the way my family treats my sister. She is 36, married and has two kids. Between her and her husband, they make triple what my wife and I do, and my parents still help her finacially. I have been on my own 100% for a while and my wifes father hasnt had to provide anything for her since she was 6. (Her mom died and her dad gave her to other family members...) My sister is older than I, but I still see her treated and supported like a child. My parents watch her kids every day during the week, cook dinners to send home with them and give them cash. Im sure there are other things that I havent been kept in the loop on too.
I try not to hold it against anyone, but it gets to me sometimes. I wanted to be completely independent, and I got it! We do all get along great, but compared to my wifes family, we plan wayyy too many events. I found that you cant please everyone, but you can do things that will make you happy. Do you!
DrBoost wrote:
Some folks are not happy unless they are unhappy. My mom is one of them.
and they're even mo happier if they can make you UNHAPPY 
wbjones wrote:
and they're even mo happier if they can make you UNHAPPY
Truth. To them it seems like they can exert just a little bit of control on the world by making you miserable.
berkeley 'em.
BARNCA
HalfDork
4/9/12 3:16 p.m.
So..finally called my father out today..and it went as expected... its my fault.. he couldn't seen to come up with a good answer when I asked him if he knew my ph num.. and if he remembered were I live.. said my peace and feel a lil better.. I think I finally figured out what bugs me the most.. that I have to talk to my father like some asshat that cut me off in traffic... so at least I know what the score is so to speak.
Like I said hunny, he is who he is...does it make it okay...no, and that is why I am so proud of you for calling him out, even though it was lost on him, you said it! When you take Elijah over there next week, if he starts to give you E36 M3, then you stop him, and say "You know what dad, I have vowed to my wife, myself and most importantly to my son that I am not going to ever treat him the way you have treated me my whole life, so we are leaving"...and you leave!! F*&^ him! He doesn't deserve to know you the way Elijah and I do!!! I love you!!!
Sounds like you have an awesome support system at your house, brother. As everyone else stated here, just cut ties and move on. You have an awesome family on your own.
