I quit!

I work in a small office with a lifetime smoker. She coughs, hacks, etc. constantly through the day and it drives me nuts. She will blame her congestion on ANYTHING else but her smoking. Asthma, pollen, allergies to daughters cat, etc., etc. I've heard it all. Sometimes the hacking is so bad I think she'd going to bust an artery, seriously. That fact that she is severely overweight, has diabetes that she doesn't regulate and smokes constantly has so far, in her 52 year life, not instilled the desire in her to change. Scary.

I applaud everyone on here that has quit.

fritzsch wrote: Any ideas on how to encourage someone else to quit?

As everyone else said, don't.

I met my wife 13 years ago, after the first year (sooner probably) she got on me about quitting. After 2 years of hearing it from her and right before our wedding I told her that if I went a year without her mentioning it, completely, no little quips, no sighs, nothing, then I would think about it, took another 10 years. But a person who quits for someone else will not stay quit. A person has to quit for themselves if they want it to stick.

JThw8 wrote:

fritzsch wrote: Any ideas on how to encourage someone else to quit?

As everyone else said, don't. I met my wife 13 years ago, after the first year (sooner probably) she got on me about quitting. After 2 years of hearing it from her and right before our wedding I told her that if I went a year without her mentioning it, completely, no little quips, no sighs, nothing, then I would think about it, took another 10 years. But a person who quits for someone else will not stay quit. A person has to quit for themselves if they want it to stick.

Right there. And that's why when I quit, I didn't even tell the wife. I just up and did it. It was purely to see if I could do it. It really wasn't even FOR me, because I loved it. It wasn't the addiction, I actually enjoyed smoking. I probably still would. But I was out of smokes and didn't want to go to the store. So that habit went down the trash.

I'm another that loved to smoke. I probably quit about 20 times (I knew it wasn't good for me, it was getting expensive, girls didn't like it, etc) but I loved to smoke. I loved that smell of a freshly lit cigarette, I loved the morning smoke, after food smoke, smoke on a 5-minute break, smoke smoke smoke.

Then one day, I just decided I wasn't going to do it anymore. The kicker was, I knew I wouldn't quit if I was still drinking so I had to give that up too!

I think I tore everyone I knew a "new one" more than once.

I eventually was able to drink without the cigarette cravings, and it worked out because the bars were starting to ban smoking inside anyways.

Now I can't stand cigarettes. Still dig cigars and pipe tobacco though.

Good times

MNDSM: I seriously want to see that maze man, it sounds awesome!

In reply to Hungary Bill:

Yeah,,,,, once.I get to it lol. I still have to build a thing for.it to keep.my kid from wrecking it.

Well... I cracked... toooo much BS at work, went to lunch pissed off, (wife and I work in the same office, hence take lunch together) SWMBO lit up at lunch, I said berkeley it and took one from her. In her defense, she did protest. I just didn't care at that moment. Didn't care about the taste, the fact I could feel my blood pressure go up, pulse sped up, etc. It was rather amusing on what I could feel going on within a few drags. Coughed my fool head off most of the afternoon for my efforts. Clock starts over tonight I guess.

Noooo

Should've had a cookie or something.

I was never a "buy-my-own" smoker, but became one with alcohol and friends. Now I've just learned to be comfortable hanging around those who smoke without smoking myself. Food though...I can never resist.

hobiercr wrote: I work in a small office with a lifetime smoker. She coughs, hacks, etc. constantly through the day and it drives me nuts. She will blame her congestion on ANYTHING else but her smoking. Asthma, pollen, allergies to daughters cat, etc., etc. I've heard it all. Sometimes the hacking is so bad I think she'd going to bust an artery, seriously. That fact that she is severely overweight, has diabetes that she doesn't regulate and smokes constantly has so far, in her 52 year life, not instilled the desire in her to change. Scary. I applaud everyone on here that has quit.

odds are you won't have to put up with her all that much longer

In reply to Spinout007:at first I was , then I kept reading and got . Keep at it man, pulling for you.

In reply to PHeller:

I've got to come up with something to do about my temper. It truly amazes me how angry I can get. I mean blinding, I just want to break something, rage. I haven't been like that since I was a kid, I thought I was through that crap. Well I didn't act on it at least. 16 year old me would have just found the biggest guy I could find and insult him into a fight, results be damned. Yes I've toted some butt whippings, not many, but I'm not going to say I always walked out ahead with that theory.

The past 11 days have put a real strain on home. Apparently chicks that have been with the nice guy for 11 years don't suddenly dig the shiny happy person. I thought all women loved the shiny happy person guy? Well apparently not, gotta figure something out. Apparently I'm getting pretty mean.

Strangely it only took my wife 3 open heart surgeries, and a bunch of post surgical complications, to quit.

Said something like she never wants to go through that again.

Spinout007 wrote: In reply to PHeller: I've got to come up with something to do about my temper. It truly amazes me how angry I can get. I mean blinding, I just want to break something, rage. I haven't been like that since I was a kid, I thought I was through that crap. Well I didn't act on it at least. 16 year old me would have just found the biggest guy I could find and insult him into a fight, results be damned. Yes I've toted some butt whippings, not many, but I'm not going to say I always walked out ahead with that theory. The past 11 days have put a real strain on home. Apparently chicks that have been with the nice guy for 11 years don't suddenly dig the shiny happy person. I thought all women loved the shiny happy person guy? Well apparently not, gotta figure something out. Apparently I'm getting pretty mean.

it doesn't make us less of a man … counseling WILL help …but ya gotta let it

good luck dude … find a way to control your anger/emotions and stay quited (made up word )

pulling for you

Yeah...So today has been all about ignore the emails. I'm going to have to answer them someday. Just not today. My main antagonist has her own rule written for her in outlook now. everything she sends me goes to a folder with her name on it. Which I would love to right click empty, but I know I have to go through it at some point.

send them here, I'll dump them for ya

just trying to help, man