So, I think my racing club is trying to kill me . . .

The funny thing is the venue is a drag strip. I'm thinking it may be open for us because even drag racers aren't dumb enough to race on Mother's Day. (Drag racers, I keed, I keed)

mndsm wrote: I say do it. She can't be pissed at anyone other than herself for giving you permission, logically. I know that's what i'd do. (And yes, I am married, and I do have a child.)

you're using logically and wife in the same sentence ???????????

In reply to kazoospec:

Leave a burning lowercase "t" in your scca planning coordinator's front yard every night for the next month.....With any luck, he'll realize its "Time to leave"

yamaha wrote: In reply to kazoospec: Leave a burning lowercase "t" in your scca planning coordinator's front yard every night for the next month.....With any luck, he'll realize its "Time to leave"

So that's what those mean... great SP reference

I'm always surprised when Fathers Day comes around. Don't care to be appreciated one day of the year, thank you very much.

Mothers day is different, in a VERY BAD WAY. It used to be a thing where the kids made a craft at school and brought it home. Now its full-on, balls out extortion.

Have you guys heard about push presents?

Oh yeah- I'd go to the event, but I ended up divorced because of similar situations.

Streetwiseguy wrote: Have you guys heard about push presents?

I hadn't. That's retarded.

wbjones wrote:

mndsm wrote: I say do it. She can't be pissed at anyone other than herself for giving you permission, logically. I know that's what i'd do. (And yes, I am married, and I do have a child.)

you're using logically and wife in the same sentence ???????????

I also divide by 0.

What did she do for you on father's day last year?

mazdeuce wrote: I don't know what kind of wives you guys have, but mine would understand.

It's been well established you're married to Wonder Woman.

To expand on my previous comment about taking her out early, do it, but don't warn her first - make it a surprise. Set up someone to look after the kid(s). Reservation at a nice restaurant. That Kindle Fire you think she wants.

EvanB wrote: Why not celebrate on a different day, it's just an arbitrary date.

Not to a woman. Go ahead, try it. I dare you.

Streetwiseguy wrote: I'm always surprised when Fathers Day comes around. Don't care to be appreciated one day of the year, thank you very much. Mothers day is different, in a VERY BAD WAY. It used to be a thing where the kids made a craft at school and brought it home. Now its full-on, balls out extortion. Have you guys heard about push presents? Oh yeah- I'd go to the event, but I ended up divorced because of similar situations.

Apparently all of these little holidays are getting out of control. My parents never did anything for St Patricks Day and I can't remember my school doing anything, but now apparently schools have started doing a whole thing, and due to that the kids are putting pressure on their parents to do a whole thing, like hide gold chocolate coins and rearrange furniture as if leprechauns were about. I don't get it.

Blame Hallmark.......

I totally ignore all those "made up" holidays … with the exception of Christmas …. but then I'm also not married

Take the kid(s) with you to the autocross. Have a trusted buddy keep an eye on them during your runs, bribe someone to take your course worker slot or get one that is not out on course and the kids can be with you, buy the wife a spa day or some other happy horseE36 M3, profit.

Seriously, if it were me, I'd be at home for Mother's Day. I know that sounds like being a Bob Costas, but I have been married for 25 years next month and want to keep it that way.

Zomby Woof wrote:

bravenrace wrote: So SWMBO is your mother?

Beat me to it. This comes up every year. She's not your mom. The only problem with your situation is that either your wife thinks she is your mom, or for some reason she thinks you should be buying her presents because you want to go racing. Your wife is out of line. Stop being a Bob Costas and nip it in the bud.

Exactly. The problem here is a lack of rookie wife training. You can't just get a wife and then let her go and do or expect anything she wants. She needs trained for the job. There is no "SWMBO" in my marriage, as we are equals. Women by nature want to control everything. If you don't do the proper training in the beginning, your marriage can easily turn into a dictatorship. BTW, my wife and I have been happily married for 24 years. We've been married for 25 years, but I can't say the first year of training was happy. My kids get my wife gifts for Mother's day, and I get my Mom gifts. I get my wife gifts on our wedding anniversary. I've never had a problem with my wife in missing Mother's day...

bravenrace wrote: The problem here is a lack of rookie wife training. You can't just get a wife and then let her go and do or expect anything she wants. She needs trained for the job.

Wow. How much did you enjoy your "training"? I assume, being "equals", that you accepted her attitude-adjusting input during that training period just as well as you expected her to accept your changes for her.

I've never met you, but somehow I doubt it.

Says the guy who's been trained to treat his wife as his mom for just one day per year.

In reply to Duke:

You take my statements a little too seriously, there dude. I was trying to make a point, and that is that IMO neither the husband or the wife should dominate a relationship. Some of you guys sound like you never grew up, and have to obey your wife's every whim (like she's your mother). My marriage is equal partners. Neither one of us dictates what the other does or doesn't do. We talk and we work it out. Seriously, buying better gifts to somehow earn the right to do something? I guess whatever works for you, but I wouldn't want to be you.

bravenrace wrote: In reply to Duke: Some of you guys sound like you never grew up, and have to obey your wife's every whim (like she's your mother). Seriously, buying better gifts to somehow earn the right to do something? I guess whatever works for you, but I wouldn't want to be you.

And my relationship isn't like that at all. But I didn't have to "train" my wife, either.

Hey man, good for you. You win the interwebz for the day.

Sorry, the damage is done as soon as you announced your desire. You might very well have said "Your sister has asked if I can screw her lights off on this date. Is it OK?"; You just can't take the perceived insult back.

So, the broader question is what do you do next?

IF you do go racing, you won't have as much fun as you should knowing that there is a volcano brewing at home.

If you do stay home with the wife, she will be fully aware that your desire is with another venue.

Having lived through these scenarios early on in the marriage gig, the arrangement we came to was that we could be dicks to each other on the "Hallmark Holidays", and try to be good to each other the rest of the year. That solution has been working pretty good for over 20 years and under its terms I will be at a British Car swap meet with a clear conscience this Easter!

Mother's Day...eh, lightweight.

I skipped my wedding anniversary 3 years in a row to go on banger rallies. If it weren't for the fact that the guy running the rallies liked my wife and wanted me to stay married so he moved the event date I'd have missed more.

Did I catch hell for it? Yep.

Did I have a great time on the rally? Yep.

Am I still married? Yep.

All good in my book.

When my wife was pregnant with our 1st child she was PISSED that I didn't do anything for her on Mother's day. I said, "What? You're not a mother yet." BAD decision...

2002maniac wrote: When my wife was pregnant with our 1st child she was PISSED that I didn't do anything for her on Mother's day. I said, "What? You're not a mother yet." BAD decision...

Been there, Done that....along with the theme of this thread. I took my MSF test on mothers day. My wife isn't crazy about the bike and my mother (who was an ER nurse for 35 years) hates bikes.