Excellent!
Totally in love. I haven't felt this great since college.
Congrats, good luck to both of you, sounds like you compliment each other well. Love in the springtime, what could be better?
In reply to imgon:
To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentations of their women? 
Congrats Curtis
Bring her down to Hunt Valley cars and coffee, I'm sure a bunch of us will show up to welcome her to the family.
This is very good. Build her a cool car!
In reply to sesto elemento:
Better yet, build her an interesting yet unreliable one so that she always needs you in her life to mend it
In reply to captdownshift:
So that's like automotive Munchausen-by-proxy?
Congrats Curtis. Good lookin' lady there.
captdownshift wrote: In reply to sesto elemento: Better yet, build her an interesting yet unreliable one so that she always needs you in her life to mend it
Build her something that inspires her to share your passion. Swmbo Loves her mr2, she does track days and autox with me, she crawls under it and helps with. mods and maintenance, and not begrudgingly. If you have the means, I highly recommend it 
http://www.914world.com/bbs2/uploads/post-222-1486867233.gif
Scoreboard!!!!
captdownshift wrote: In reply to sesto elemento: Better yet, build her an interesting yet unreliable one so that she always needs you in her life to mend it
Ahh yes, "Nurturing Dependence," the first N of the D.E.N.N.I.S. system
iadr wrote:curtis73 wrote: Totally in love. I haven't felt this great since college.As someone who fell off (was thrown off) the cliff the other way recently, those words sound too familiar. Just... be careful, ok? Just as someone here wrote of when losing a pet, ...all the love you feel, you pay for it when they go.
Agreed, and I have been very aware and verbal in my needs and wants. She is very emotionally aware and takes that honesty well.
Our biggest problem is that we're both empaths and we keep reflecting each others' emotions. It has been harrowing but so much fun. I'm in a really good place with her, and a really good place without her, so here's hoping.
sesto elemento wrote: This is very good. Build her a cool car!
She just bought a brand new Suby, so she has vehicular independence right now. She isn't really a car person, but I'll break her in right. One ride in the 67 Lemans with the top down this spring should do it.
fasted58 wrote: Congrats Curtis. Good lookin' lady there.
She's amazing. Beautiful, intelligent, spiritual, teaches yoga and voice lessons. Last night the theater wrapped up a show, struck the set, and carted it all back to the shop in a box truck, so I had a hellish day. When I got to her place after, she had my favorite flavor of wings and a six pack of IPA waiting for me. I don't kiss and tell, so I won't tell you what she had waiting for me after the wings, but it was better than an IPA. It was more like an OMG.
In reply to curtis73:
Perhaps I'm asking for TMI and/or applying my own judgment to your situation, so please disregard if you think so. Is this relationship going to be open or closed?
In reply to AngryCorvair:
The response to that question is often that it depends on who is asking.
AngryCorvair wrote: In reply to curtis73: Perhaps I'm asking for TMI and/or applying my own judgment to your situation, so please disregard if you think so. Is this relationship going to be open or closed?
Perfectly valid question, and thank you for discretion. (but I'm not a very private person)
I don't consider myself a polyamorist, necessarily. I just happened to be in a long-term polyamorous relationship with my ex. It is my assertion that the open part of a relationship is something that may or may not develop based on the dynamics of each individual relationship.
So for now, closed. If open develops later, great. If not, great. We have talked about it at length, and she has expressed interest in it, but has zero experience with it. Her ex-husband was a very... umm... let's say traditional guy. He was the kind of guy who thought emotions were weakness, and his woman should think and act the way he wanted her to. (sidenote: that is a very harsh condensed version based on what she has told me. I'm sure the truth is not that stark. That is just how their relationship made her feel, but I know her ex and he is a great human) So, while she is very progressive, aware, and empathically loving, she is still very new to having someone actually "fill her tank" to the top. She was always running on fumes, so the idea of sharing that level of intimacy with someone else outside of the primary relationship was a concept she could never imagine. Right now, we have each others' tanks so full that she is seeing how polyamory actually can work for some people.
The analogy we are using is "filling the tank." Her husband didn't speak her love-language, so he never filled her tank. The idea of one or both people going outside the relationship to fill their tank wouldn't be healthy. If the primary relationship is adept at filling both people's tanks really well and keeping it full, getting a wee bit of fuel elsewhere isn't a big deal. (at least in our analogy)
But the short version is, closed for now, but both aware that open is a possibility. But I have 8 years of a former relationship having her run on fumes to help her re-learn first. Its not like I can fill her tank once and expect her to trust that I can keep it full forever anymore than you can feed a starving child once and have them expect to never be hungry again. I'm perfectly happy either way.
In reply to curtis73:
Keeping with your tank-filling concept, I would suggest that a full tank doesn't have room for fuel from another source. and that gas engines don't run well on diesel. I wish you the best, my friend!
Sounds dirty 
AngryCorvair wrote: In reply to curtis73: Keeping with your tank-filling concept, I would suggest that a full tank doesn't have room for fuel from another source. and that gas engines don't run well on diesel. I wish you the best, my friend!
Good analogy. I just don't believe that humans are scientifically wired for a single gas station. Having said that, I don't mind single-source fueling once you've found a gas station you trust.
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