Taking "Dude" Negatively

I was permanently cured of calling people "dude" in high school. My best friend's mom (whom we always called "June", as in Cleaver) got annoyed with us over-using it and started pointedly saying things like "Are you two dudes planning to be here for dinner?" and "What time are you dudes planning to be back?" It made us realize how stupid it sounded, and we pretty much dropped it. Although I still think it's stupid, I don't get bent out of shape when someone calls me dude.

I do hate being called "sweetie" by the waitresses at IHOP, though.

I just ignore people that I don't know who call me "dude". My experience is that people who don't know me and call me that are looking to mooch something from me. So I just don't respond. When my friends call me "dude" I just give them E36 M3 back...

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I don't get dude very often and when I do it's from a fairly young person. Since it seems few people bother to teach their kids how to be grown ups I just chalk it up to ignorance and move on. If the only thing you have to complain about is how you are addressed your life is probably not as bad as you want to think it is.

There might be a few people in this world, that should spend a little less time being offended by little things that really don't matter in the grand scheme of things.

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Damn! beat me to it!

Once again, I am totally oblivious as to how badly I am offending people.

I had a woman from New York (which she made sure I knew) get upset at me calling her ma'am, so anything is possible

My dad got stabbed in the leg for calling someone "hoss" once. True story.

Dude doesn't hold any negative connotations to me. I use it often. I also could give a berkeley if it offends.

Dusterbd13 wrote: In my town, using the word dude will result in either getting your butt kicked for negative connotations, get you labelled as a hippie communist freak, or both. So round here, its sir, ma'am, or "hey man".

I would love to go to your little town and stir E36 M3. Dude, get over it

You go out on tuesday looking for a job like that?

What- what day is it today?

What's a hippie communist freak, in 2015?

There's dude, and there's "dude".

I use it as a exclamation, I think I don't respect anyone little enough to actually call them "dude" or "hoss" or "boss" or "guy" or "bro" or "brah" or "man" or "Gaylord" or whatever. I call people by their name or if I don't know that I just say "hey shiny happy person".

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yupididit wrote: What's a hippie communist freak, in 2015?

I'd guess a card-carrying Greenpeace member who eats bats head-first for lunch every day and and supports actual, soviet-style communism

I was also looking to see where Dusterbd13 lives so I can avoid the place or at least be aware

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Rufledt wrote:

02Pilot wrote:

Rufledt wrote: "Dude indexes a stance of cool solidarity, a stance which is especially valuable for young men as they navigate cultural Discourses of young masculinity, which simultaneously demand masculine solidarity, strict heterosexuality, and nonconformity."

Am I the only one who sees a bit of a contradiction in "cool solidarity" and "nonconformity" both being part of the "cultural Discourses of young masculinity"? Reminds me of an exchange from an old MASH episode: Hawkeye: "What's normal, Frank? Frank: "Normal is everybody doing the same thing." Trapper: "What about individuality?" Frank: "Individuality's fine, as long as we all do it together."

very true, but doing something that you think is nonconformist, and actually not conforming, are 2 different things. Think about hipsters, they are trying to not conform, but they are just creating a whole new conformity. Hippies did the same thing. And goths. There was a south park on that last one.

Dude, you forgot to include the typical Harley riders in your conforming non-confirmists groups.

I think I'm going to start being offended anytime anyone is offended. What is being offended at others being offended called? Offended squared? Reverse offended? Inverse Offended? Reflectoffended? Offendarounded?

I think I like offendorang. It's where your offendedness comes right back at you.

chandlerGTi wrote: I use it as a exclamation, I think I don't respect anyone little enough to actually call them "dude" or "hoss" or "boss" or "guy" or "bro" or "brah" or "man" or "Gaylord" or whatever. I call people by their name or if I don't know that I just say "hey shiny happy person".

But what happens if you're excited for someone? Do you say:

Hey Bob, how we doin' Bob? All right. It's been a while Bob, life's so rad! This band's my favorite Bob, don't ya love 'em? Yeah. Aw Bob, you want a beer? All right. Aw Bob, this is the best. I'm so glad we're all back together and stuff. This is great, Bob. Yeah. Hey, did you know about the party after the show? Yeah. Aw Bob, it's gonna be the best, I'm so stoked! Take it easy Bob'.

Dudes. Much adude about nothing.

Toyman01 wrote: There might be a few people in this world, that should spend a little less time being offended by little things that really don't matter in the grand scheme of things.

Looking at it the other say: if it's a little thing that really doesn't matter, then it should be easy enough to avoid calling people 'dude'.

Dusterbd13 wrote: In my town, using the word dude will result in either getting your butt kicked for negative connotations, get you labelled as a hippie communist freak, or both. So round here, its sir, ma'am, or "hey man".

Sounds like another reason to stay North of the Mason Dixon line to me dude.

Being former enlisted military and forced to call the largest collective group of e36 m3 heads I've ever known "sir" burned me off that pretty quickly. The standard comeback was usually something like "don't call me sir, I work for a living."

But I pretty much let that one go these days. I will still get all up and over random people who decide on their own to call me "Steve" instead of "Steven" when I have never introduced myself that way.

"Dude" or even worse "Bro" are pretty much the "Off Button" to my input circuits. I figure there is nothing intelligent coming down the pipe after, so no need to listen any further.

NOHOME wrote: "Dude" or even worse "Bro" are pretty much the "Off Button" to my input circuits. I figure there is nothing intelligent coming down the pipe after, so no need to listen any further.

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