So circling back to inflation, and based on a real world example, here's an exercise we can all do to reset our expectations and see what it's like for people just starting out and how it may be different than when we all entered the workforce:
I have a friend who has a bachelors in marine biology, and a graduate degree in molecular biology. They applied to a research lab in the Northern Virginia/DC area working on gene sequencing (I give you this background to demonstrate that it was a fairly high level, professional job...they're not a fast food worker). The lab initially offered them $38,000 as a starting salary offer. They asked me if they should take the job. That is a ridiculously insulting offer on the part of the company, but I don't think it was intended that way. I think their HR department just still thinks it 2002, both from a salary standpoint and a NOVA living cost standpoint. Living in Reston, or Sterling, or even out past Leesburg back then was cheap.
So anyway, here's the exercise: assume you're 22-24, just out of school with a degree, and you got a job offer for $60,000 at a bigger company (pretend healthcare is included in the job offer to take it out of the equation). So already well above the real world example above. Can you live on that in your area?
Here's my breakdown (using SmartAsset for the tax estimation) for a much cheaper part of Virginia:
$60,000 - Salary
$6000 - 10% 401k contribution
$4868 - Fed taxes
$4590 - FICA Taxes
$2535 - State Taxes
Which leaves you $42,007 take home to live on, or almost exactly $3500/month.
Here is a basic apartment (I lived here in college, it was perfectly adequate 20+ year old housing 20 years ago, not one of the nice new fancy places going up everywhere):
https://www.apartmentfinder.com/Virginia/Blacksburg-Apartments/Windsor-Hills-Apartments
Rent is $1500 for a pretty basic place (1 or 2 bedroom, but not a studio thank god), plus say another $300 for power/water/trash/internet. I'm using an apartment, because I'm (hypothetically) fresh out of school and this is what I know. Using zillow to check the same place for something to buy, there are zero houses under $400,000 right now. A $400,000 house with 10% down and 4.5% interest rate on a 30 year fixed works out to $2250/month for PITI, so I'll stick with the apartment. But included the option for discussion.
Cell phone and data plan is $100/month (ATT or Verizon)
I'm going to assume I already own a decent hatchback or commuter car from college, so $0 there. Plus, this is GRM. If there's one area we can be rockstars in, it's our cars.
Car insurance $100/month
Fuel $150/month (may be low these days, or maybe I got lucky and WFH)
So now I have the basics: a place to live, a car, and a phone. I've got $1350 left to feed myself, do anything fun socially, indulge in hobbies etc. To say nothing of student loans, or unexpected expenses, having to replace or repair the car, save toward a house, etc. Marriage and child raising (to include daycare at $1500+/month) immediately destroys the budget. I can't afford to house, feed, and cloth a family on $60,000, assuming I am just starting out from zero in 2022.
I think this is the real reason younger people aren't buying houses or starting families. The cause and effect is backward. They play video games because it's a one-time $50 charge to escape the reality that they can't afford the basics of a house and family, let alone the luxuries (lake house, boat, new truck, insert other common American dreams here) that many people over 40 take for granted.
Food for thought.