Why Are People So Stupid

When it comes to relationship? That is all.

It's because there are humans involved.

Humans

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Why the hell won't they ever listen to advice?

People don't want advice, they want confirmation of the decision they've already made in their mind.

96DXCivic wrote: Why the hell won't they ever listen to advice?

Let me repeat

Human

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A million years ago people like that would get eaten by the big evil dinosaurs.

calteg wrote: People don't want advice, they want confirmation of the decision they've already made in their mind.

That's why the answer is Miata!

Ditto, calteg.

I also think there's something in the air today turning people into extra large shiny happy people.

Bigamy is having one wife too many, monogamy is the same thing. Oscar Wilde. Yes, I'm single.

calteg wrote: People don't want advice, they want confirmation of the decision they've already made in their mind.

x3. Been guilty of that stuff m'self. Again...human.

Must've been in the air last night.

Full moon?

I'm sorry... what? I wasn't listening - I was just waiting for my turn to speak.

nutherjrfan wrote: Bigamy is having one wife too many, monogamy is the same thing. Oscar Wilde. Yes, I'm single.

I've always said, ones not enough, and two's too many.

calteg wrote: People don't want advice, they want confirmation of the decision they've already made in their mind.

trOOf. Guilty of that at times here as well.

And it's the bedrock principle of every sales pitch known to humanity.

I'm racist. I hate the human race. Dogs are good, Cats I can handle. People? Shoot them all.

I don't understand the question.

Beer?

someones sig on another forum says something like this: "the more people i meet, the more i like my dogs"

They're not very willing to admit to themselves or others that this opinion, course of action, etc. that they've chosen is wrong.

Ultimately, it is a lack of humility.

To quote Dilbert:

"Love causes stupidity in lab rats."

Yep, advice is only worth the value the other person puts on it.

My problem with my S.O. is that I'm a problem solver, so instead of just listening and letting her vent about something, I immediately want to solve the problem. Try just letting them vent, bitch, piss, moan, complain, etc and then ask if want to know what you'd do differently or if there is anything you can do to help. If they are interested, then you can proceed to provide advice, otherwise giver her a hug and just go about your business.

I've also recently gotten to the point where, if I know I can solve the problem quickly, I'll go solve the problem while she freaks out, then once the problem is solved and she's done freaking out, we regroup and for the most part she thanks me. I think it helps that she knows she freaks out, but hasn't really gotten it under control.

I've tried to convince the wife that freaking out isn't going to make me solve the problem.... that approaching it rationally will. She starts crying, I generally leave the room.

mndsm wrote: I've tried to convince the wife that freaking out isn't going to make me solve the problem.... that approaching it rationally will. She starts crying, I generally leave the room.

+1

The sound of yelling is one of those things that does not get easier to tolerate with time. Rather than murder everyone in my immediate vicinity making a squawking, sobbing or screaming sound... I go for a long walk.

i think because people in general don't/can't simply state honestly what they want.

madmallard wrote: i think because people in general don't/can't simply state honestly what they want.

That's actually an excellent observation. My wife is horrible at articulating her needs. I love her to death (and she puts up with me being a wheel whore, among other things) but she cannot tell me what she needs half the time. I of course, have developed a counter attack for it..... but it's still a pain.