Because of the big should-you-shouldn't-you that doesn't seem to have any good resolution, I haven't tried taking off the front sway on my car yet. I did, however, add a rear sway and it made it drive like a whole new car. What Instead of trying to soften up the front end, I've tried to tighten up my rear end (heh heh). I'm already super light over the rear wheels, so I tend to run a little more pressure in the rear tires and I've got the rear bar. Mix that with a fair amount of handbrake/left-foot brake, and I can get my FWD car to turn and slide pretty well.
The mantra that I've always heard is that soft suspension is better for rough surfaces, but the most amazing suspension that I've ever driven in anger on a RallyX course was in a Honda and it was pretty stiff. Not as stiff as a road race setup, I would assume, but front and rear had to have been stiffer than stock. My next suspension goals are to go to a setup that allows for a pretty tall spring with lots of travel, but at a pretty high spring rate in the front and an even higher spring rate in the rear.
Another option that you might consider would be to just put blown struts on the rear. Then you can get the rear end to bounce up into the air and then pivot through the sky around the front wheels. Kind of like those BMX tricks. I managed to make that work okay for a while. :)