Do you tell?

Counting on our "GRM brain trust" if you have a class mate making sexual advances towards you, would you tell your girl friend? This has been bothering me for a few weeks. The girl that has been bothering will not take a hint. One thing that really gets anoiying is in one of my classes she is the only other student...ugh

Depends on how serious you and your current gf are and if you would like to stay that way.

Only tell your girlfriend if there is a chance that she'd like to join in. Otherwise, no.

I'd first stop with the hints though and tell her bluntly to stop. If that didn't work, then I'd tell, but my girlfriend and I have been dating for 3.5 years. Might be different with you.

When subtlety and hints don't work, be blunter.

While it may be flattering and good for your ego, it's wasting both people's time.

Dan

If she won't take no for an answer, go ahead and hit it greek style, and wipe your junk on the curtains when you leave.

Tell your classmate that your girlfriend is armed and dangerous....

I'd tell my wife. And be like "But i'm still comin' home to you baby". It's a way to get it out there AND get brownie points.

PITTB?

Aeromoto wrote: If she won't take no for an answer, go ahead and hit it greek style, and wipe your junk on the curtains when you leave.

Hahahaha!

If you do tell her, and I'm pretty sure you shouldn't, be sure to carry a video cam with you. Your girl is likely to want to kick the other girl's a$$, and if you've got the cam handy you can get the catfight on video. Nothing like having 'em fighin' over you!

Go to the Nude e bar never tell , chic hits on you never tell , like getting kicked in the nads and your drive shaft cut off in your sleep go ahead tell her . I think this is a guy code rule . Pik of both for further advice

Is she cute? Bang it out d00d.

I'd bet you haven't really been sincere in your "not interested" posture, or else she wouldn't still be bothering you.

I would personally tell my girlfriend and we would have a good laugh about it.

mguar wrote: In reply to Volksrodden: Don't hint.. be frank and upfront about it..In a very real sense it's a compliment. So be tactful but direct. Finally why involve someone else? Bragging?

Its a compliment when a girl does it, sexual harassment when a guy does!

Joey

Tell her.

It'll remind her you have other options, and that she shouldn't take you for granted. That'll lead to some sex.

Osterkraut wrote: Tell her. It'll remind her you have other options, and that she shouldn't take you for granted. That'll lead to some sex.

Yeah.

Right.

Do things for a reason. This ain't it. Maybe you can think of one. I can't. Sorry.

I married the last girl this happened with. Be very cautious.

Smack it up , flip it, rub it down on the DL. Just don't leave any evidence. No e-mail, text, phone calls, video or DNA.

Osterkraut wrote: Tell her. It'll remind her you have other options, and that she shouldn't take you for granted. That'll lead to some sex.

Works for me every time. Hell half the time the wife has to tell me some woman wants all on me, because I'm too distracted by a shiny object I must own. She'll be like "So, she was totally wanting on your junk" I'll be like "ORLY? Race car parts" and then we go home and get down.

Completely depends on your relationship with your current SO, what you want, and your own morals and ethics.

Are you at all interested in this classmate? If not, there's no issue here whatsoever, as there's no chance of you doing anything improprietous. Tell the SO so it doesn't trickle back to her from a third-party and seem like you're trying to hide anything.

However, if you're making this thread, that makes me think there's more going on here, and that means you have some questions to deal with. Exactly how interested are you in this classmate? Is there any likelyhood of you following up with that interest? Is it worth the possibility of losing your current girlfriend or opening up a discussion on polygamy or open relationships to follow through on that interest?

The absolute most important thing is that you're honest with yourself, and the secondmost is that you're honest with your current girlfriend. Lying to yourself about what will make you happy only makes you resentful when you get what you bull-E36M3 yourself into thinking you wanted.

For me, if I couldn't have the conversation with my SO, it would make me question if that was a person I could really be with for the rest of my life. I wouldn't want to live in a relationship where I couldn't at least talk about something that was bothering me, especially if it was pertinent to the relationship.

From the fact that you're still in school, I will assume that you're rather young. So..., all kidding aside, take it from a 40-something that has been married for many years---

One night, many years from now, you will be lying awake in bed next to your snoring wife of 37,000,000 years, and you will think back on this situation with your schoolmate and say to yourself "I shoulda hit that when I had the chance"

Can I get an "amen" from any of the married 40+ somethings?