In reply to Giant Purple Snorklewacker:
I certainly am not going to discourage anyone from posting pictures of their good looking female relatives.
In reply to Giant Purple Snorklewacker:
I certainly am not going to discourage anyone from posting pictures of their good looking female relatives.
My daughter turns 19 in 7 days and is a freshman in college. Thank God she has a good head on her shoulders. I never have had to worry about what she is doing on a Friday night. The other three children are boys. The eldest at 23 drives me crazy sometimes. He has caused me a lot more sleepless nights than the daughter has. Hell, he managed to make me a grandfather before I was 40. Beautiful little girl. I hope she doesn't take after her dad.
My two daughters are 17 and 18. Hopefully, I've raised them right. My oldest wanted to date an 18yo when she was 16. Ex-wife and I agreed that we would have to meet him, before allowing any social interaction. After he left my house, she was texting with him. Apparently, I put the fear of God in him.
Remember, guns don't kill people. Dads with pretty daughters do. 
I have 2 neices, 15 and 9. The 15y.o. has a good head on her shoulders, unlike her mother at her age. And she has a stepfather and uncle that would protect her at any cost.
The 9y.o. is going to be interesting to see how she turns out. She was a daddy's girl, but since her parents split and daddy doesn't see her often, she has gone down hill. I hate to think how she will be when she is a teen
minimac wrote: Doesn't matter if it's nieces or daughters......best to watch how John Candy handles it in "Uncle Buck".
woohooo i love it lets kill some Bugs I finally have a reason to take up golf..
And you thought Italian cars were big maintenence....
My daughter just turned 13, she's a teenager but she is still a kid in a lot of ways. At least she's not boy crazy- yet. 
No big brother to beat up the dirtbags, either.
Sh has a 12 year old cousin who has developed very quickly and is boy crazy and that worries me. My daughter has a pretty level head on her shoulders and we have discussed peer pressure, etc but as we all know from our childhoods we don't always act in our own best interests.
All I can do at this point is keep the lines of communication open and remind her that the decisions she makes now and in the next several years will have a drastic effect on the rest of her life.
pigeon wrote:Auto ADD wrote: I lover herI HOPE that's a typo...
Always good to have a ninja there to help out..
Joey
Man, I'm so glad I'm in college...not to worry you guys or anything
Steven
We've tried to stay in touch with my neice while she is in college, stopping by to take her out to eat and going to her events. Without spoiling her with material things we try to convey the message that she is important to us. Unfortunately she doesnt always get that message from her parents. She's done pretty good. She got her own job to pay for her extras. She takes responsibility for most of her life. She doesnt always pick the best boyfriends(or at least the ones we would like her to chose) but so far there have been no irreversible mistakes. Hell, they are going to experiment and there is nothing we can do to prevent that; we just have to hope that the only result is a few tears.
Ah college. The best years of my life if only I could remember them all. 
RX Reven' wrote: I’ve got two daughters (six & three) so this subject is very much on my mind. Every decision I make in terms of my parenting style is made with the future in mind…in other words, I always consider how my current actions will affect both my relationship with them and their self image when they’re at the dating age. I try to be accepting and understanding of them so they’re comfortable sharing what’s going on with me and I try to instill the maximum sense of self worth and confidence in them so they’ll be comfortable telling boys to go Berkley themselves. I make a concerted effort to demystify “guy” stuff…I take my daughters to the hardware store, have them hang out while I’m doing home repairs, etc…this is all intended to instill the message that they can do anything a boy can do. What else should I be doing to fortify them???
Sounds like you've made a great start. Treat women well and with respect, especially the mother figure in their lives. And take them autocrossing when they get their licenses.
914Driver wrote: And you thought Italian cars were big maintenence....
Oh wait I was wrong about the guidos!
Actually these girls are blonds (light eyes & skin) they shared a bottle.
They change their hair more often than I change my sox.
Wait--so one these lasses is 13?!
WTF is this world coming to?! 
Just don't do like my parents did. When I tried to step in on behalf of my kid sister with her ex I was told to stay out of it, and that they were the parents because she went crying to them about me not leaving the two of them alone. Low and behold there's an awesome 8 year old in the family now, (that wanted to ride down the dragstrip with me at the challenge this year) Luckily she learned her lesson when he picked her up by the throat and started beating her when she was preggers. When I was asked why I didn't do anything about what was going on with them, my answer was the statement "Just stay out of it, We're the parents not you!" and I walked away from them. (btw he's a very lucky little snot, there was a law enforcement officer standing there last time we met.)
My daughter turns 21 and graduates (hopefully still with a 4.0) next year. She just got engaged to a young man who actually had the respect for her to ask our blessing first.
I tried the gun thing on him our first meeting.....he may be marrying her for her inheritence. 
She dated sparsly in high school, the boys did not measure-up to the men in her life as she was growing.
She rebuilt her first cars front suspension, and her second cars brakes, plus maintenence.
She too was taught that she can do anything a male can do. We have also had mutual respect, and open comunication. (not to be confused with "friendship")
We did the best we could, with what we had, and it was obvious to everyone, she was always a priority.
I like the way Bill Engvall put it.... "See that little girl over there? She's my world. If you ever do anything to hurt her, just remember..... I've got no problem going back to jail."
Duke wrote:RX Reven' wrote: I’ve got two daughters (six & three) so this subject is very much on my mind. Every decision I make in terms of my parenting style is made with the future in mind…in other words, I always consider how my current actions will affect both my relationship with them and their self image when they’re at the dating age. I try to be accepting and understanding of them so they’re comfortable sharing what’s going on with me and I try to instill the maximum sense of self worth and confidence in them so they’ll be comfortable telling boys to go Berkley themselves. I make a concerted effort to demystify “guy” stuff…I take my daughters to the hardware store, have them hang out while I’m doing home repairs, etc…this is all intended to instill the message that they can do anything a boy can do. What else should I be doing to fortify them???Sounds like you've made a great start. Treat women well and with respect, especially the mother figure in their lives. And take them autocrossing when they get their licenses.
I'll second that.
A girl's first love should be her Daddy, so when some punk-a$$ comes along wanting nothing more than to get into her pants, she can say, "Hold it, mister! I'm not going ANYWHERE with you! I've seen the real thing (in my Daddy), and you're nothing but a fake imposter!"
My daughter (20 yo) has found something wonderful about being "old fashioned". She won't date ANY guy unless he is FIRST willing to go talk to me and ask my permission. It's not that I am controlling her every move. In fact, I'd approve anyone she sent (and she has never sent a loser). But she figures it's a good measuring stick to weed out the losers. If they are not man enough to talk with me, she figures they are not good enough for her. She actually made one guy drive 5 hours EACH WAY to talk to me first. He did it. I was impressed. She hasn't found Mr. Right yet, but she sure has had the chance to spend some time with some wonderful young men of character.
I took her on dates, I involved her in my life, I got involved in everything she ever had an interest in, I took her autocrossing, construction, whatever.
She was my princesss, and I treated her like it. She knew she was second only to her Mom for me. I figured the best thing I could do for her was to show her what she should look for in a guy (even if I knew I sometimes fell short).
She still talks about dancing with me while standing on my feet. She still calls me, "Daddy". One day, Mr. Right is gonna be Mr. Very Fortunate.
Date your daughters. Make them feel special enough that they know a phoney when he comes along.
I have a 10 month old daughter and all of this scares me. I know that how her mom and I bring her up will be very important but knowing how I thought as a teenage boy makes me nervous.
used to have an 81gtv6 wrote: I have a 10 month old daughter and all of this scares me. I know that how her mom and I bring her up will be very important but knowing how I thought as a teenage boy makes me nervous.
Ditto to that. My daughter is nearly 11 months old, and I am already worried about her. The good news is that I have made plans to buy/modify her first powerwheels (SWMBO has given conditional approval), and I am starting to save to get her into go-karts when she turns 7!
Speaking as a daughter...the best thing you can do to make sure your daughter doesn't end up dating a jerk is to not be a jerk. If you're worried about the quality of her future dates, you're already well ahead of many out there.
My own dad was a mixed bag. When he wasn't sober, boy-howdy... what a jerk. But when he was, there was an amazing parent in there. I found his stash of Playboys when I was six or seven, and I remember to this day what he said to me when he found me thumbing through them. "Honey, you won't understand this for a long time, but I want you to know that the women in these pictures aren't real. You aren't supposed to look like that when you grow up. You are beautiful, no matter what any magazine says." It matters, guys.
My stepdad is the best dad ever. I wouldn't be who I am without him. He always asks the important questions when I start dating someone. "Does he treat you well? Does he make you happy? Okay, if that changes, you need to let me know." So stepdads, you're super important, too.
Mostly, be honest. "Boys are going to want to touch you in places they shouldn't. They'll say and do a lot of things to get there. Just be aware of that." Make it clear that if they have ANY doubts, they need to talk to you.
^ Thanks.
dollraves wrote: "Boys are going to want to touch you in places they shouldn't. They'll say and do a lot of things to get there. Just be aware of that." Make it clear that if they have ANY doubts, they need to talk to you.
PIITB? I'm positive that is what you were getting at.
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