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Osterkraut
Osterkraut SuperDork
8/23/11 4:58 p.m.
dollraves wrote: Seriously, though. It is completely possible (and in my case, probable) to have guy friends who think you're awesome and gorgeous and still be completely not their type, and vice versa.

Nope. Men only have one ladder (warning: language)

Women have two:

Source

HiTempguy
HiTempguy Dork
8/23/11 5:37 p.m.
93EXCivic wrote: It is completely possible to be just friends with a girl and not be interested in dating them. Probably my closest friend is a girl and no I am not gay, I have been dating a different girl for getting close to six years.

Wait, so you have a friend (that is a girl) that is closer to you than your current GF? That seems odd, unless you just mean she is the "next" closest friend.

Wally
Wally SuperDork
8/23/11 7:00 p.m.
Lesley wrote: I dunno. I have close male friends who aren't interested in me. And only a couple of them are gay.

You may think so, but I don't know if I'd even trust all the gay ones Chris Rock NSFW

JoeyM
JoeyM SuperDork
8/23/11 7:57 p.m.
4cylndrfury wrote: Yeah, its weird after chasing it for so long, being chased, and finally understanding why I failed a dozen years ago...its weird, and borderline creepy.

I once got a fawning, too-friendly letter from a former obsession of mine. She talked about how much she missed the time we used to spend together, the fond memories of the apple pie I made for her....I was pissed off enough to throw the letter off hoover dam.

Mental
Mental SuperDork
8/23/11 7:58 p.m.

Work with and am friends with a great deal of very pretty girls. I see them as pretty but not my type. Married Messican and love it, but I work with all kinds of tall, short, thin, curvy, blonde, brunette, asian black white etc etc etc. These are some young and very pretty ladies, but not my type.

It's like that cool car you have no interest in owning.

Now, the Latinas I work with...well, I keep my distance for my own safety

AngryCorvair
AngryCorvair SuperDork
8/23/11 9:04 p.m.
JoeyM wrote: I once got a fawning, too-friendly letter from a former obsession of mine. She talked about how much she missed the time we used to spend together, the fond memories of the apple pie I made for her....I was pissed off enough to finally tell her about the "liquid salt" in the recipe.

ftfy

AngryCorvair
AngryCorvair SuperDork
8/23/11 9:06 p.m.
Mental wrote: Work with and am friends with a great deal of very pretty girls. I see them as pretty but not my type. Married Messican and love it, but I work with all kinds of tall, short, thin, curvy, blonde, brunette, asian black white etc etc etc. These are some young and very pretty ladies, but not my type. It's like that cool car you have no interest in owning. Now, the Latinas I work with...well, I keep my distance for my own safety

because they'll cut you maing!

93EXCivic
93EXCivic SuperDork
8/23/11 9:56 p.m.
HiTempguy wrote:
93EXCivic wrote: It is completely possible to be just friends with a girl and not be interested in dating them. Probably my closest friend is a girl and no I am not gay, I have been dating a different girl for getting close to six years.
Wait, so you have a friend (that is a girl) that is closer to you than your current GF? That seems odd, unless you just mean she is the "next" closest friend.

Yes that.

ckosacranoid
ckosacranoid Dork
8/23/11 10:20 p.m.

when ever someone asks, i just say something about my mistresses that i have...right now i have three of them. they are chevy, chevy, and subby.....it sucks when you have not had a date since x-mas eve of 2003..sigh.....i really must suck or something.....

MitchellC
MitchellC Dork
8/23/11 10:49 p.m.
Osterkraut wrote:
dollraves wrote: Seriously, though. It is completely possible (and in my case, probable) to have guy friends who think you're awesome and gorgeous and still be completely not their type, and vice versa.
Nope. Men only have one ladder (warning: language) Women have two: Source

Once I subscribed to the "Take no E36 M3, give no berkeley" dating approach, my life became many times easier. Four weeks: If nothing has happened within four weeks of pursuing an interest, it will not develop. No worries; onto the next one.

AngryCorvair
AngryCorvair SuperDork
8/24/11 8:38 a.m.
MitchellC wrote: Once I subscribed to the "Take no E36 M3, give no berkeley" dating approach, my life became many times easier. Four weeks: If nothing has happened within four weeks of pursuing an interest, it will not develop. No worries; onto the next one.

^this. like my dad used to say, if only 1 out of 100 say "yes", you should be thankful when you hear "no" because you're one step closer. then the only challenge is approaching 100 every day. :-)

Gearheadotaku
Gearheadotaku Dork
8/24/11 9:05 a.m.
nderwater wrote: I'll just leave this right here ;)

Ain't that the truth.... One would think that living in the Metro Motor city that finding a gearhead girl would be easy...nope.

Brett_Murphy
Brett_Murphy HalfDork
8/24/11 11:01 a.m.

I'm married and have advised my wife of the following:

There are many women I can look at and lust after. That's because I'm human. The fact that I'm not motivated or inclined to do anything with them means that I'm in love with you.

She gets it. Mostly.

wbjones
wbjones SuperDork
8/24/11 4:43 p.m.
dollraves wrote:
wbjones wrote: hey dollraves, I'm good with the friend thing... just waiting for you to move back to NC
And give up my stylin' life in the upscale ghetto of Alviso, CA? Not a chance! (It's upscale because the cars here are usually actually on jackstands or lifts, not just blocks...oh, and they have to move once a month for street cleaning!) Well, not until I get this rotary engine in the Miata, at least...and get the GTXes sorted out...and get a comparable job back home. :P Seriously, though. It is completely possible (and in my case, probable) to have guy friends who think you're awesome and gorgeous and still be completely not their type, and vice versa.

mrwillie
mrwillie Reader
8/24/11 5:14 p.m.
tuna55 wrote:
Ian F wrote: There are times I swear my wife only wants me around to work on her cars and clean and repair the house and do the laundry and bathe the kids and wash the dog and feed the kids and earn the money...
same here, sorta.

You forgot carry the luggage on trips and take the groceries out of the car.

aussiesmg
aussiesmg SuperDork
8/24/11 5:46 p.m.
mrwillie wrote:
tuna55 wrote:
Ian F wrote: There are times I swear my wife only wants me around to work on her cars and clean and repair the house and do the laundry and bathe the kids and wash the dog and feed the kids and earn the money...
same here, sorta.
You forgot carry the luggage on trips and take the groceries out of the car.

You also can add, be romantic, take her out for dinner, fix the roof, buy her a house, fix her car, buy her a better car, get a bigger refrigerator, put away the clothes you washed, do the dishes, cook dinner and "Take out the damned trash"

tuna55
tuna55 SuperDork
8/24/11 9:32 p.m.
aussiesmg wrote:
mrwillie wrote:
tuna55 wrote:
Ian F wrote: There are times I swear my wife only wants me around to work on her cars and clean and repair the house and do the laundry and bathe the kids and wash the dog and feed the kids and earn the money...
same here, sorta.
You forgot carry the luggage on trips and take the groceries out of the car.
You also can add, be romantic, take her out for dinner, fix the roof, buy her a house, fix her car, buy her a better car, get a bigger refrigerator, put away the clothes you washed, do the dishes, cook dinner and "Take out the damned trash"

You guys are right, I do all of those things too, but I am pretty sure she could skip the romantic stuff and not mind. I've lived in this house for five years and she's already jonesing for another one.

oldsaw
oldsaw SuperDork
8/24/11 10:36 p.m.

In reply to tuna55:

If she can skip the romantic stuff, invoke the PIITB mantra; she'll forget about another house for a while. Just remember to have an escape plan.

Or buy her a ladder.............

Salanis
Salanis SuperDork
8/24/11 10:53 p.m.
tuna55 wrote: You guys are right, I do all of those things too, but I am pretty sure she could skip the romantic stuff and not mind. I've lived in this house for five years and she's already jonesing for another one.

I don't think "romantic" is necessarily code for sex. I suspect it's more code for "bring me flowers, chocolate, jewelry, take me out, and generally spend money to make me feel special."

tuna55
tuna55 SuperDork
8/25/11 6:56 a.m.
Salanis wrote:
tuna55 wrote: You guys are right, I do all of those things too, but I am pretty sure she could skip the romantic stuff and not mind. I've lived in this house for five years and she's already jonesing for another one.
I don't think "romantic" is necessarily code for sex. I suspect it's more code for "bring me flowers, chocolate, jewelry, take me out, and generally spend money to make me feel special."

Yup - that's what I meant.

Taiden
Taiden HalfDork
8/25/11 7:49 a.m.

I wish I could have read this thread when I was a sophomore in high school!

Osterkraut
Osterkraut SuperDork
8/25/11 8:25 a.m.
Taiden wrote: I wish I could have read this thread when I was a sophomore in high school!

I discovered that "double ladder" theory at the end of my high school sophomore year. Of course, it turned me into a misogynist for 6 months, but hey.

pinchvalve
pinchvalve SuperDork
8/25/11 8:59 a.m.

How did this thread stray so far from the OT? Is the GTX getting fixed or not?!?

iceracer
iceracer SuperDork
8/25/11 9:21 a.m.

It seems,after reading the comments from unhappy relationships, that I have been extremely fortunate. Married twice, both where partners in all ways. Unfortunately they were taken away too soon. Seems to be a continuing trend.

KATYB
KATYB HalfDork
8/25/11 2:08 p.m.

gotta be honest married for almost 8 years now and well its a partnership with no real issues on either side of things.

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