wondering if anyone else has the same problem

As a kid I.went through.a lot of turmoil, parents got divorced when I was about 6 or 7 fought like pitbulls during the whole thing, I was always a little odd, never had a ton of friends, had good ones though like chili_head (best friend, although I'm far from good at communicating that) but my problem is I never learned to express my emotions whether it's anger, sadness, happy, whatever in a normal way it only comes out in the extreme. So if i'm sad I get to the point I implode same with anger and frustration. I know I need to go see a "professional" about this but wondering if anyone else in the hive has similar issues?

Emotions are a funny subject. Most people don't realize I have them until I get to an extreme. Not similar to your case, though.

Yeah mine cause implosion of epic proportions

I had a similar childhood. Time mellowed me some. I don't blow up as much as I used to.

Kia_Racer wrote: I had a similar childhood. Time mellowed me some. I don't blow up as much as I used to.

I don't blow up to much anymore it more of an issue of extremes when i get stressed at home.

I used to be very similar.

over the last few years I've learned to squash potential emotional issues with logic and rationality. I don't block out or try to escape, rather acknowledge and embrace whatever I feel, but not wallow in it.

then look at what caused it, both the immediate causes and any underlying long term flotsam that got stirred up and fed into the situation. if I can see any way to correct anything(immediate & long term issues) I do it. If not then I drop it and move on. feeling like E36 M3, being pissed and or sad takes a lot of time & energy and I don't have any to waste. plus it just leads to more E36 M3 and then your state of emotional turmoil becomes a vicious cycle.

of course there will always be residual effects of emotional challenges that need a healthy outlet. I have guitars, punk rock, death metal & reggae to help out with that. and also hiking - fresh air, exercise, nature and all that crap.

ymmv

I've drowned my feels with alcohol or apathy the paat few years. Probably should go see someone too. Emotes are not my thing.

beans wrote: I've drowned my feels with alcohol or apathy the paat few years. Probably should go see someone too. Emviolentare not my thing.

I was there several years ago, that how I spent my early 20s controlling the issue but with the family i cannot start that up again. I wasnt a violent drunk or even unhappy as a drunk, quite the opposite but it got me nowhere in life being drunk all the time I wasn't working

Although I do want to start drinking more socially, maybe learn about wines. A social life is a big step in the right direction for my sanity i currently just stay home and other than the grocery store or an occasional event like my ffb Draft this past weekend I'm damn near a recluse. Always been that way kinda.

See your doctor and try some meds - nothing major, but maybe a little celexa or welbutrin (speeling?) might take the edge off. Don't be afraid of a small dose of medication. I find, being on celexa, that I'm much more able to express my feelings and accept situations which would have berkeleyed me up pretty badly before.

Don't get out much? Walk daily. Even around the block or a few blocks. It's a 10 minute change of scenery. It's also like a shower or a E36 M3 - you get some good thinking time in.

Also, thanks for talking about it. Talking leads to action.

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I checked your profile and see that you're a SAHP. I used to work from home and it was a very tough time for me for similar reasons. I was home inside almost all the time. Please talk to your S.O. about some walkie time for you alone. 15-20mins a day just to digest the day and get some fresh air when she's home and the young-uns are busy, eating or down for the night.

Any car shows in the area? Maybe you'll meet someone there and interact. Comment to a person about a car and maybe start a conversation. They might not be hard core, but they're at a car show, so they at least have a passing interest.

You can use this in any situation BTW.

Honestly I am on a large dosage of prozac. Works Ok on a normal basis but times of stress I feel like I used to without the prozac.

Maaaaaaaaaaaaaybeeeeeeeeeee a change of meds? As much as the transition would SUCK... I ramped off effexor XR too fast and it was quite a ride in a not so good way.

Then I was off meds for a bit. That was a bad idea in many ways.

Celexa works well enough for me right now, but I still have my moments. Mind you they're not like when I was off meds - shorter duration if nothing else.

I still think you should try for some get outside time daily with a walk by yourself.

Gonna be social tomorrow night, SWMBO just got tickets this morning to what amounts to a bucketlist concert. Alice Cooper and Motley Crue. Seen Crue several times, but Alice Cooper is the bucket list part. Like 5th row too

The only difference between legal and illegal drugs is who makes money off of them. Kick the drugs. Find a hobby. Exercise like your life depends on it.

1988RedT2 wrote: The only difference between legal and illegal drugs is who makes money off of them. Kick the drugs. Find a hobby. Exercise like your life depends on it.

I normally dislike taking medicines although just kicking them depending on what is being treated can be pretty dangerous.

I don't many issues but now that I am approaching 52 my wife says I'm going through manopause and I am one crabby old guy - get off my lawn.

I don't like the whole medicated treatment thing. I've REALLY cut back on my drinking since 2008, when I blacked out, rolled my Jeep at around 40mph going off a small cliff, breaking my back and foot in the process and waking up in a hospital in SLC(5 hours from where I lives in Wyoming), cuffed a to a hospital bed. Puts some things into perspective. Its only increased my apathy though, and when I drink, I usually try new, expensive beers and allot myself only about $15. I was never an emotional drinker, I just used it to hide whatever feels I had. I've grown overly 'good' at disconnecting my feelings in many stressful situations, its built up to a point where I get stressed and start having vision and muscle tension problems. I've lost a lot of friends over the two. My best outlet has been my hobby with cars and driving; I can really tell a HUGE difference after a hard day working on cars, an autocross, or karting. Cooking is my second hobby, but I've fallen out of it since moving back to Toledo. My view on life isn't the greatest, but my two passions get me through every day, and I act like an entirely different person when doing either.

1988RedT2 wrote: The only difference between legal and illegal drugs is who makes money off of them. Kick the drugs. Find a hobby. Exercise like your life depends on it.

Not true. Sometimes the problem isn't due to mood or circumstance, but faulty brain function. In which case a properly prescribed medication can be a lifeline.

There is evidence to suggest that a 20 minute walk each day will improve emotional problems, especially if it is shared with a non problem causing friend.

Also, personally, most of my emotional issues went away when I changed to a diabetic, whole foods diet even though I'm not diabetic.

Then count yourself as lucky. Exercise and being around people really can help lift your spirits. But for people with genuine mental illness, the proper medication is often the only answer. Be grateful if you aren't one of them.

I used to see a therapist for a while, and it worked really well. My "simmer the berkeley down" method is recognizing the emotion (that's the hard part), recognizing it for what it is, and not letting it control me.

It's OK to get mad/sad/gassy/etc.

Even with things going so well the last few days i have to fight to keep my own mind from dragging me down. I don't want to but my mind just starts thinking about things out of my control that trigger certain unpleasant feelings and emotions. Trying to think about other things that are happier when this happens but I tell ya manic depression is a total bitch.