Drunken Self Control

skype...spend some time talking to your SO. you won't feel so bad about passing up those opportunities if you remind yourself why you are making that decision

You need to be master of your domain.

Or quit being master of your domain...

Are you falling for the hookers at many of the corners? ;) But those german girls sure were cute...

but i second the skype idea

Yeah. We schedule that for twice a weak, and usually get a few side conversations in between that. That helps a LOT. Does not remove 100% of the suckiness. Some nights are more difficult than others.

This darned well better turn out to be an incredible relationship worth the struggle and frustration when we get back together again. I really do believe it will. But that does not make the interim much easier. Occasionally I need to seriously remind myself.

I do really wish my girlfriend were on Skype right now.

fritzsch wrote: Are you falling for the hookers at many of the corners? ;) But those german girls sure were cute...

I don't need hookers. I have had very attractive (and clean) female friends refer to me as "Prince Charming" (while playing with my hair) and other comment that they are "addicted" to me. Informing them I have a girlfriend generally does not dissuade them.

Europeans gals sure are cute.

I suppose this isn't the thread for enablers?

In reply to MG Bryan:

Either very yes, or very no. I can't make up my mind, and I may feel very differently in the morning. (Or I might feel very much the same.)

If this were a simple dilemma, it would be more... well... simple

I'd be remiss in my duties to my ethnic heritage if I didn't advise you not to make any important decisions sober.

Also, if you want real advise, call a friend who has personal insight into your relationship.

I have been in a long distance relationship for a decent amount of time (4+ years). I won't say there wasn't once or twice I wasn't tempted but if she really means that much to you, you won't do it. I wish I could tell some secret to making a long distance relationship work but I think ultimately it comes down to both of you just kinda willing it happen and believing it can happen.

Also drunk decisions are the world's worst decisions. Just think about how much you will hurt her if you do that.

MG Bryan wrote: Also, if you want real advise, call a friend who has personal insight into your relationship.

Great idea. I wish there was one My best friend back home (after my girlfriend) just doesn't quite fully understand our relationship.

Real decisions will be made more sober. Even when not in a committed relationship, I have serious rules against making certain major decisions without a good nights sleep to "cool off"

Sometimes it takes additional moral/emotional strength (or distraction, in the case of this board) to calm down. Especially when there is extra stress in the form of things like major exams.

93EXCivic wrote: I have been in a long distance relationship for a decent amount of time (4+ years). I won't say there wasn't once or twice I wasn't tempted but if she really means that much to you, you won't do it. I wish I could tell some secret to making a long distance relationship work but I think ultimately it comes down to both of you just kinda willing it happen and believing it can happen. Also drunk decisions are the world's worst decisions. Just think about how much you will hurt her if you do that.

Yep. I'm really just coming here to vent and distract myself (fortunately, tonight's opportunity has already faded). I feel kind of selfish but... berkeley it. Sometimes you need to to be selfish and lean on your support group to get through the hardest times.

Thank goodness there is a clear end date to the long distance part of the relationship. And thank goodness I have a standing rule against making certain decisions without a "sleeping on it" period to cool off (whether I'm sober, in a relationship, or not).

In reply to Salanis:

I know exactly what you are going through and how much it sucks. If this helps at all, I am convinced that if you can make it through a long distance relationship, it will make you a stronger couple.

And here I thought this tread would be about ordering expensive car parts after too much to drink.

fast_eddie_72 wrote: And here I thought this tread would be about ordering expensive car parts after too much to drink.

Don't I wish I had a car here. That would actually make things easier. Great way to burn off some emotion and frustration.

from the title, i thought this thread was going to be about holding it together while being E36 M3faced. sometimes i can, and other times i trip over random low hanging rope chain fence and fall face first, breaking my glasses... i was hoping to learn some tips

I always try and follow things through. Clearly, you aren't too hard up in the ladies department, so I'd keep on keepin' on. The best things are worth waiting for.

And if it doesn't pan out in the end, you should be commended for your steadfastness and you'll probably feel better about the whole thing. You'll have also given her a fair chance, which it sounds like she deserves!

mrjoshm wrote: from the title, i thought this thread was going to be about holding it together while being E36 M3faced. sometimes i can, and other times i trip over random low hanging rope chain fence and fall face first, breaking my glasses... i was hoping to learn some tips

Couch, toilet, fridge, couch, toilet, fridge, couch, toilet, bed.

Salanis wrote:

fast_eddie_72 wrote: And here I thought this tread would be about ordering expensive car parts after too much to drink.

Don't I *wish* I had a car here. That would actually make things easier. Great way to burn off some emotion and frustration.

got a bike? go for a spin.

i say go for it...

just get a little drunker...then tell yourself it was a wet dream.

What you consider a problem some men would consider a blessing.

I say don't do it

I'm unfortunately an embarassed member of the "cheated on a girlfriend once" club, and I can tell you, no matter how hot she is, it is not worth it, even if your current relationship is almost over (which it isn't, in your case). It's ESPECIALLY not worth it if you're drunk.

That said, if I was drunk and in Germany...I have a thing for blondes and accents, so that would be torture for me, too! Go take a walk or something. That is something I do if I don't have access to a car. Did it a lot in college, it's very relaxing.

You can also look at it like this: if you didn't have a girlfriend already, they might not even be acting like that, because girls (I don't care what language they speak) are berkeleying unspooled, and are more attracted to guys that are already in relationships. Ok, most girls, not all, there's some on the boards and I don't want to start a E36 M3storm

Twin_Cam wrote: there's some on the boards and I don't want to start a E36 M3storm

You're just giving them a complex by saying crap like that.

Ladies, you're all berkeleyed!

Sincerely, Guys worldwide

Twin_Cam wrote: You can also look at it like this: if you didn't have a girlfriend already, they might not even be acting like that, because girls (I don't care what language they speak) are berkeleying unspooled, and are more attracted to guys that are already in relationships.

I have noticed. Had one girl throwing herself at me harder after I'd told her I had a girlfriend in an effort to get her to back off.

Yeah, not going to cheat. But I'd be lying if I said I was never tempted to. Sometimes it's just really helpful to get some outside reassurance that I am doing the right thing and it will be worth it when this frustration is finally over.

Thanks for the support guys.