Congratulations! Parts of it are going to be amazing and wonderful, and parts of it are going to be really difficult and stressful, and that's ok too. Remember to take care of yourself!
Congratulations! Parts of it are going to be amazing and wonderful, and parts of it are going to be really difficult and stressful, and that's ok too. Remember to take care of yourself!
Congratulations! Parenthood is one helluva ride. I'm so excited to continue watching my 3 turds grow and learn
Congratulations!!
Congrats man. Beautiful kiddo. Wishing you the best and a speedy recovery for momma. Her experience sounds horrific.
This needs to be framed hanging in y'alls bedroom.....oh and what stampster said..........late
I can't imagine how nerve wracking that time must have been for the both of you! Congratulations on fatherhood!
Congratulations!
I hope your wife has a quick recovery.
We had a scare when our son was born, but it was far, far less traumatic than the complications you described.
She lost a lot of blood due to a retained placenta, then got rushed to surgery when her blood pressure dropped ("Stat" is a scary word when it's not on TV).
I spent the next hour wondering if I was going to be raising him as a single dad. Very tough experience.
You've made it through this as a new family. I'm so happy for you all!
He is so cute, congratulations on the new member of your family.
Just had to change my first poop diaper so of course Avi decided it was time for a power dump. Thanks buddy.
Dude, congrats! I wish I could really convey how happy I am for you, especially coming out of such an awful birth; my OB rotation had me in a full C-section (They thought I was a med student, not a paramedic student) and honestly C-sections are the one thing I can't do. But man, when that baby cried for the first time... honestly, I think I died that day, or at least the boy whom I was before died.
infinitenexus said:In reply to Stampie :
Unfortunately my workplace doesn't offer paternity leave, and I only had 3 days of PTO. So Thursday I'll be taking a day of unpaid leave and Friday I'll be working remotely from the hospital. Monday I don't have much choice but to be back at work. So I'll be doing my best to help The Wife recover as good as possible and rest as much as possible. Every minute I'm home I'll be taking care of The Wife and Avi.
... i'm not gonna get mad.
Congratulations! Your son is a handsome booger. I will pray for your wife to have a speedy recovery. A regular section clips tough enough. She is going to hurt like hell. The gas is bad enough.
infinitenexus said:Just had to change my first poop diaper so of course Avi decided it was time for a power dump. Thanks buddy.
At least once, he will pee directly in your face, as well. 
Congratulations , and tell Mom, we are all proud of her, and giving her all our best. She did the tough part of the delivery, and look FANTASTIC with her son. Sorry it was so rough, and scary for you as well, but glad it's looking up now!
What a crazy birth. Thank is for sharing your experience.
Baby looks perfect and the name is awesome!
wish you and your family all the best.
Congrats
Wow, that was rough! Best of everything to you all.
Welcome to the beginning to the rest of your life.
infinitenexus said:Just had to change my first poop diaper so of course Avi decided it was time for a power dump. Thanks buddy.
Gotta love those first Tar Poopies. Tenacious. Hard to get clean. They get better soon and breast fed poopies are almost smell-less. Baby food is when the STANK lights off.
In regard to your lack of PTO, I am sad and angry for you. That is an impossible scenario for me. My work allowed me to take 12 weeks paid (separate from my regular PTO) for my 2nd and I was able to take at least 8 weeks for my first. I cant even imagine going back in the first week.
Congratulations on meeting your future best friend . . though I will caution that there will be many days of both joy and frustration as you make your way there.
In reply to Apexcarver :
My job is great, the people are great, the pay is okay, and the benefits are kinda blah. In the 5 months or so that I've worked there I've earned about 3.5 days of PTO. I don't really like that there's no paternity leave. As much as I absolutely love my job and workplace, things like this are why I know I'm not staying there permanently.
In reply to infinitenexus :
How's the second day of fatherhood? I remember seeing a picture of me the second day in the hospital and I looked like I was dead on my feet. It gets better once you get home and in a routine.
Congratulations!
It's always stressful when the delivery doesn't go the way we expect. Ours wasn't nearly as traumatic for my wife but apparently worse for mini-me and resulted in an emergency ambulance ride to the NICU at the big university hospital nearby. Trying times....
How is your support system for when you get everyone home? A (helpful) friend or relative who can be there for mother and baby for a week or two would be useful since you're gonna be less present than ideal.
Oh, and be ready for some weird feels as you load mom and baby in the car for the drive home from the hospital. Some of the fog shook off then and I was hit by the realness of my new reality.
The first day and night were incredible - he didn't fuss a single bit and he slept the whole night. The second day his appetite kicked in and now he's starting cluster feeding, so basically he wants to suckle every minute of the day. He'll feed for 30 minutes per boob, we set him down and within seconds he cries because he wants more! So when we were still up at 1:30am and he was still doing it, I said okay let's nip this in the bud and drive home and grabbed a pacifier. We would prefer to always have him feed but the pacifier really helps give us a break. We got about 2 hours of sleep last night total, and right now he's swaddled nice and tight and going to town on his pacifier so we might be able to catch a quick nap. I was able to get another 30 minutes or so of sleep this morning which helped a lot. Haven't eaten yet except for an old banana. So yeah I'm pretty tired and rambling haha.
In reply to KyAllroad :
We don't really have any form of support system, with us moving cross country twice during a pandemic we don't know hardly anyone. My wife's family is only a few hours away but we don't really trust them around the baby - her family has a lot of addicts and abusers. My wife had a best friend here but her and her husband inherited a house about two months ago so they moved away. I know what you mean about reality setting in - him filling his diaper with dookie and then keeping us up most of the night was a big wake up call for me. I imagine when we get home and have him in our apartment it's going to be another new feeling.
Baby Avi just settled down and is sleeping soundly so we're both going to take a nap with him
The swaddlers with velcro we a major worthwhile help for us in the first months gaining peaceful sleep. after that we went over to sleep sacks.
example we got ours at Target, but this is similar.
Our oldest wound up using a motorized swing a lot for sleep for awhile, our youngest didnt really need it. You will have a lot of trial and error figuring out maximizing sleep with what works for the baby. Gah, if you were near us I would give you some stuff that might be useful that our youngest has outgrown.
I dont want to alarm you, but you may want to start planning your contingencies for the possibility that your wife will not be physically equipped to be alone with the baby for a few weeks recovering from the C-section...
Every old parent will tell you "enjoy every moment; it goes by so fast." That's because it's true. Seems like about five years ago the nurse put my baby boy in my arms for the first time. Tomorrow we're moving him into the dorms for his freshman year of college.
The sleep deprivation is the worst. If you can handle that, you can handle it all.
You are now the third most important person in your life, until/unless you have more kids, in which case you'll move on down. This is fine.
Music? Sports? Career? Help Avi figure out what he wants to do, then back him all the way.
God bless you and your little family.
Congratulations to all three of you.
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