I'm sorry to hear this was such a frustrating situation, doubly so because you were trying to help someone out. I think you've done an awesome job of trying to help our your friend!
I've done some charity automotive work over the years, and it's been some of the most fulfilling car-related activities I've ever done. Unfortunately, it's tough to know just how crazy things are going to get.
- I met a guy who had a flat tire on the side of the road one day on the way into work. He delivered papers for a living after being laid off by a city IT department. He had a green card, college degree, and good skills, but just couldn't find a job. He was really upset because if he missed another day of his paper route, he'd be fired (and homeless within a short time). While we were throwing the spare on, I could see the front LCA was badly bent. He carefully drove to a shop, and I paid to have the LCA replaced, along with two front tires and an alignment. That literally kept his job, and later that week we used some redneck engineering (sawsall, zip-ties, etc.) to replace his cracked radiator with a JY unit. A few months down the road, he we did some late night (and early morning) emergency brake repairs after a rear wheel cylinder exploded. After the initial expense of the LCA and tires, he paid for all the parts. I helped him update his resume and apply for some jobs, and he got a really good one. That job enabled him to bring his wife and son over from Ghana, and he's still gainfully employed and doing awesome. So in that case, the help I gave was probably life-changing. I believe God put me in the right place at the right time to help someone out.
- A co-worker on a work visa from India was horrifically underpaid and got a crazy high quote to replace the brakes on his Geo Prizm (Toyota Corolla clone). I bought the parts off of Rock Auto, he paid me for them, and we went to work. 3 of the 4 lugs on the first wheel we took off snapped immediately, and we spent a big chunk of the day raiding our local parts store for replacement wheel studs
In the end, we got it all buttoned up and it worked out just fine. But there was a pucker factor of, I've just disabled his only form of transportation and I don't know if I can get it fixed by Monday.
I've had a few jobs I knew I could take on, but the risk of the jobs caused me not to offer help:
- Timing belt on a V6 Highlander for my son's HS friend
- Timing belt on my brother's Subaru Legacy
I've done timing belt work on my own vehicles several times, but I get more nervous working on someone else's vehicle. So I give you kuddos for taking on this project in the first place, and then doubling down with the latest work! I was really hoping for a better outcome for you, as your heart was definitely in the right place!