This isn't for me, it's for a long-time friend. She is a stay-at-home mom of three and her husband works on oil rigs, so he's gone a lot.
She had a miscarriage about 6 months ago, and while in the hospital she was having terrible migraines. They discovered she had a brain tumor (fortunately not cancer) that was causing them, but the location of the tumor and the fact that it was benign-ish, they ruled out surgery. She's basically in the "take these pills for the pain and let us know if it gets worse," phase. They want to wait as long as possible given the risk of the surgery.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago: The sheriff's department came to serve a warrant on her husband, which of course completely blindsided her. They confiscated some electronic devices and found child pornography in his possession. At this point, he tried to un-alive himself, so they checked him into a psych ward.
So now he's in jail awaiting trial, he's still looking for ways to un-alive himself, she's now a single mother of three, the kids lost their father since he's not allowed to have any contact with minors, she's wondering if he ever did anything to their kids (although CPS counselors said it was unlikely), and her only option was to return to work and pay daycare for three kids. She clears about $100/week after all that. They can't afford bail, and even if they did, he can't leave the county... which means he couldn't work or return to his parent's place where he would have to live, so he gets to rot in lockup for 1-3 years until they get him a trial, after which he'll likely get 3-10 years.
She's in a rough spot. They all are. I'm trying to have sympathy for the husband because it's likely a mental illness and not malice, but I'm still working on that grace. There is nothing to suggest that he physically acted inappropriately with minors and it was just the media on his devices, but this one is a hard thing for me to forgive.
She's not much of a praying person, and neither am I, but if you have a moment, send a prayer, some reiki, some positive vibes, whatever toward Tiffany and the kids. If you want, I'm sure her husband could use some as well.
